Is Grief Killing Your Holidays?

If you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, I know how hard the holidays can be.

Holidays are the time we slow down and take a trip down memory lane.

In no time, we fall into a pit of sadness remembering those we have “lost.”

Today, I want to share my simple recipe for joy this holiday season–

Celebrate the holidays with those in spirit!

Stay with me…

In my latest book, “Love Never Dies,” I share my own amazing journey with my deceased husband, world-renowned former Jesuit priest Emile Jean Pin.

From the moment Jean left his body, Jean’s astonishing manifestations, often in front of witnesses, have proven to me that we don’t die…

As he told me, “Death is an illusion. There is a very thin veil between the realm where you are and the realm where I am.”

He added, “The veil is thinner than you can ever imagine. I’m standing right here.”

The point?

When we shed the turtle shell of our bodies, we continue to live on in spirit form.

This means that your relationships aren’t meant to end with bodily death.

So, this holiday rather than grieving over what you have lost, reconnect with loved ones in spirit.

Let me share the story of Dawn whose best-friend suddenly left her body during the holidays.

Dawn was driving behind her friend, Elsie, whose car was having trouble.

Elsie stopped to put air in her tire and Dawn headed home.

Not long afterward, Dawn received a frantic call from Bette, who had stayed with Elsie.

“You have to hurry back,” Bette said. “Something is terribly wrong with Elsie. She collapsed on the ground and is having a seizure.”

As Dawn raced back to the store, Bette, who’s a nurse, performed CPR on Elsie.

But by the time Dawn arrived at the scene, Elsie was no longer in her body.

Dawn wept as she described seeing her friend on the pavement, her eyes rolled back in her head, and her clothing soiled with urine.

Ever since the tragedy, Dawn and Bette had been berating themselves for failing to save Elsie.

Suddenly, Elsie came through like gangbusters.

Clearly, she was hell-bent (or should I say heaven sent?) on talking with my patient and setting her straight.

Elsie described in nontechnical terms what had happened to her. She showed me the image of the tire on her car and said that what happened to her brain is exactly what happened to the inner tube of her tire–it bulged and blew.

Dawn confirmed that Elsie’s symptoms were consistent with a brain aneurism, which was exactly what her friend was describing.

Elsie went on to say that Dawn shouldn’t be sad. I heard her use the expression “chin up.” She clearly wanted Dawn to snap out of her reverie of agony and guilt.

“She was always telling me to keep my chin up. Those are her words!” Dawn exclaimed.

Next, Elsie showed us that she was kicking up her heels, first to the left and then to the right.

Dawn explained that this image was her way of communicating the fact she was finally free to move and dance about. In Elsie’s earthly body, she had suffered many broken bones and was essentially crippled.

At this point, Elsie showed me the image of a four-leaf clover, so I asked Dawn if Elsie was Irish.

“No,” she said. “Elsie was Jewish and Portuguese!”

I thought, I must be losing it! Where did I get the Irish connection from?

But just then Dawn added that Elsie often wore an Irish four-leaf clover that Dawn had given her as a gift. It was a prized possession, so Elsie offered the image to confirm her presence and reassure Dawn. By this point, I was crying along with the rest of the group.

My tears were soon stopped by the next image—which was of big boobs. For the life of me, I could not figure out why this picture was being implanted in my mind.

I sheepishly asked, “Did Elsie have big breasts?”

Despite her mix of raw emotions, Dawn emitted a sharp laugh.

“She sure did! They were enormous!”

I realized that Elsie was showing this distinguishing feature in order to further prove her presence and to give the message that she was (and still is) a maternal figure to Dawn—the mother that she never had.

When I said this, Dawn confirmed, “That’s the truth!”

The next thing Elsie said took my breath away.

She said, “You better save a place for me at Thanksgiving.”

Then she planted the oddest image in my mind: a turkey drumstick.

I asked, “Is she obsessed with drumsticks? I hear her insisting that you save her the drumstick.”

We all gasped when Dawn confirmed that they went to the diner every week, and Elsie always ordered a drumstick!

By offering such explicit details, Elsie wanted to reassure Dawn that she is right here, just in a different form in much the same way that water converts to ice or steam.

A couple of days later, I received an e-mail from Dawn thanking me profusely for the experience we shared in group.

“I have finally achieved peace with what happened to Elsie,” she wrote. “I feel as though a great weight has been taken off of my shoulders and I am feeling like myself again.”

And, Dawn did set a place for Elsie at her holiday table.
So, my message to you is simple.

Try a new recipe this holiday.
The recipe is simple:

Reconnect rather than reminisce!

Set a place at the table, literally and figuratively, for your loved ones in spirit.
Say hello, reconnect and dialogue with them.
As you will soon see, reconnecting is the secret ingredient for transforming your grief to joy this holiday season and beyond.

Wishing you all the love in this world and beyond,

Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love)

PS: To find out more about how “Love Never Dies” can help you to reconnect and dialogue with those in spirit, click here:

 

If You Want Your Love to Live, THIS Must Die!

Did you know that YOU must die and be born again each and every day in order for love to thrive?
Sounds a bit extreme, but let me explain.

A couple of weeks ago, I did a live weekend training with my first group of Trans-Dimensional grief therapy coaches.

At one point, the students asked for a cup of peppermint tea.

Their request prompted me to tell the story of Jean and me and herbal tea.

Each night for our 27 years together, Jean always had a cup of herbal tea after dinner. Every night without fail he would ask if I would like a cup of tea. For 27 years, I always said no, but he always asked each night.

All my brilliant students understood the meaning of Jean’s behavior.

For Jean, each day was a new day. A new life. He was the living embodiment of living in the now. So much so that he didn’t carry the memory of my past refusals. All that existed was the present moment with me, untainted by the past.

It’s new.

“It’s new” is Jean’s message to us all.

It’s new means that we must let go of past emotional residue, hurts, resentments and grudges that prevent us from fully living and loving in the now.

This is how we die and “re birth” ourselves – opening a path for love to flow freely into our lives.

But here’s the rub.

This prescription is easier said than done!

Why?

We all hold on to past grudges because the person who did us harm hasn’t righted his/her wrongs by truly listening and understanding the harm he/she did.

And, it’s only natural to hold on to grudges until you feel heard and understood by the person who did you wrong.

Here’s where my first Hay House book Kiss Your Fights Good-bye comes in. Kiss shows you how to properly communicate your thoughts and feelings, using my X, Y Formula, so that the other person wants to listen and understand you.

And Kiss also shows you how to listen and understand others, so you can give this gift of healing to those around you.

Working together to properly communicate and listen and understand each other is the only way to clear out emotional grudges. It’s also the only way to make sure to resolve any new issues in the moment so new grudges are not formed and carried into the future.

Resolving your issues with those around you is the secret to dying and being born each day.

When you resolve your stuff with others, your heart becomes a clean slate that’s not bogged down with past hurts and anger.

Click here if you want to learn more about how Kiss Your Fights Goodbye can help you to die and be born again each day by cleaning your heart slate.

PS: If you carry a grudge against someone who passed over before you had a chance to work it out, there is hope. My latest book, Love Never Dies, shows you how to reconnect and make peace with the deceased. Healing grudges you hold toward those in spirit is the only way to fully clean your emotional slate.

When you are free of all the emotional baggage, you will be born again each day into a new heart that is free to love without restraint.

To find out more about how Love Never Dies can help you to reconnect and make peace with the deceased, click here:

bigstock-Super-summer--12686015Wednesday, November 12th at 1PM EST

Do you want to experience total wellness in 2015?

If you said “yes,” then you need to join me for an empowering discussion with Dr. Richard London, who has served as the C.E.O, Chief Education Officer, C.V.O., C.M.O., and V.M.B.C. of several companies as well as being a business consultant for over 25 years.

His clients include famous media/entertainment personalities, industry and corporate leaders, leaders of countries and major organizations worldwide.

He is also the founder of 14 world charities.

Join me as we discuss his “Life Wellness System,” which is your doorway to total wellness!

 

You can listen live in real time by clicking here: freeconferencecall.com/wall/askdrlove

How to Dialogue with Spirit to Resolve Unfinished Business on Hayhouse Radio

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Tuesday, 12pm EST

Join Dr. Jamie Turndorf (aka Dr. Love) for an intimate discussion of how she and her husband resolved an outstanding issue that troubled them. Discover why she needed to wait until her husband was in spirit form in order to achieve this resolution. This means it’s never too late for you to make peace with those in spirit!

And, that you may actually have to wait until someone is in spirit form in order to work it out. Dr. Turndorf looks forward to speaking with you live.

Listen live on Hayhouse.com

 

 

Vacation Romance Crashed and Burned

lovers_holding_hands_walking_beach_sunsetHello So I recently met someone while on vacation the story begins like this I saw this woman from across the bar and I immediately knew we were from the same city, I went over and asked her if she was from said city and she said yes. We were hitting it off very well in even having the same birthday and the same mundane interests. For the next three days we spent every minute together prompting her sister to say I’ve never seen her this happy. We are both in our 30 ‘ and professional, Leading me to believe that this was more than a vacation fling. However as soon as she arrived home I only heard from her to say she wants nothing to do w me. My question is not so much as to how I make it work but more importantly as to why she would do that and what changed

Signed by: 
confused
Dr. Love’s Answer: 

I’m so sorry to hear about what happened.

You know, I have often noticed that people who jump in too hard and fast often are fighting against their own fear of attachment. There’s a defense mechanism called The Reaction Formation, in which a person will do the exact opposite as a way of defending against his/her deepest urge. So, for example, the person who comes on hot and heavy, may be defending against the terror of getting close. Then, that same person will run for the hills, just and fast and without warning.

Since she liked you, this is the only plausible explanation that I can find.

She’s damaged, scared to death of commitment and intimacy and, you, unfortunately, got burned.

I’m so sorry.

Next time around, be wary of someone who comes on too strong, too fast. Like fine wine, let your relationship develop with time.

Orally Frustrated

Facing-redundancy-can-be--002Thanks for taking my question.

I am a 47 year old male and very much in love with my wife.  We are both very sexually active and she pleases me very much, with one exception.  When she performs oral sex she won’t let me finish in her mouth.  I really don’t care if she swallows my semen or not, I just would like to finish in her mouth with out pulling away, it just kills the orgasm when you stop and pull it out.  We had this discussion many years ago and she stated to me that in a previous relation  that was in she had done it and did not like the taste in her mouth.  I just don’t know how to bring up the conversation again, probably because I have the feeling she will turn me down again.  My question is how can I bring it up? How’s the best way to tell her that I don’t want her lips to stop what they are doing when I am about to climax!

Signed by: 
Jack
Dr. Love’s Answer: 

This is a hard topic to broach–if you’ll pardon my pun!

I couldn’t help but notice the irony of how you signed the question: Jack!  Considering that you want to be permitted to “jack off” in her mouth.

I’m bringing a little levity to the topic to invite you to be very light in dealing with this.

Levity combined with what I see is your own commendable sensitivity to your wife’s feelings will help us save the day.

Here’s how to bring this up:

First, begin by affirming what a great lover she is and how wonderful your sex life together is.

Then, transition to the topic that’s been on the tip of your tongue for some time.

Say that there is one thing that would make sex better for you, and ask if she would like to know what that is.

When she says yes, which I assume she will, since you have such a good sex life…

Tell her that you haven’t forgotten what she said about not liking the taste of semen.

Then explain exactly what you told me about the experience being ruined for you when you have to withdraw before finishing.

Then, ask if her if she would be open to trying something that you think would not be distasteful to her.

When she yes, which I think she will…

Tell her that I told you that there are no taste buds in the back of the mouth. So if you ejaculate farther back in her mouth, she probably won’t taste much of anything.

Also, if you’re willing to agree, she could spit the ejaculate out right afterwards. Many people keep something sweet to sip on at the side of the bed, which instantly changes the flavor inside the mouth from salty to sweet.

Let me know how this goes for you.  I’m thinking you’re going to get lucky very soon.

 

 

What Can I Do to Convince Him I Love Him?

Broken HeartIn 1997 I was drugged then raped by both males and females, publicly and captured on people’s mobiles. This was then shared throughout my town. This attracted unwelcome attention from males which included another similar event in 2008.Sadly the people responsible were care workers and “friends”and sinceI had no memories of the events. I have been slandered,lied about and sexually abused.No-one believes me and my partnerdoesn’t either and says I have destroyed his life What can I do when he believed everyone else but me whatever ridiculous stories they come up with?

Signed by: 
Heart broken by being raped!
Dr. Love’s Answer: 

I am sick to hear what happened to you, just sick.

I know you asked me what you can do to get him to believe that you love him.

While I know you think this is the real issue that you need help with, I promise you it’s not.

My answer is going to take us in a direction that you never anticipated, but, please, stay with me.

Your boyfriend is violating you and emotionally abusing you.

He is using your assault as a club to further assault you!

If you loved yourself the way you should, you wouldn’t allow this!

The proof that you don’t love yourself is found in the fact that you’re trying to convince him to believe you.

I can only imagine what your childhood was like. I am sure that you were abused, and that nobody listened to you and/or believed you.

What I’m going to say next might sound like blaming the victim, but hear me out.

We humans emit energetic frequencies that tell others how to treat us. If we’ve been beaten as kids, we send out energetic signals that say beat me some more. I’m used to it and I deserve it.

This explains why people who have been victimized early in life seem to be magnets for more victimization.

I’m not saying that the rape is your fault. What I am saying is that your history of abuse makes you vulnerable to abuse.

Believe it or not a study was done in which a rapist was asked how he chose his victims and the rapist said, “I pick people who emit a beaten down energy.”

I am sure that the wounds you suffered as a kid made you an energetic target to those rapists, and continues to make you a target of your boyfriend.

The goal here shouldn’t be to make him believe you, your one goal needs to be saving yourself body, mind and soul.

I mean that you must adopt, endorse and love this poor little wounded girl that lives inside of you.

All that matters is that you know the truth and you know what happened. You don’t need to convince yourself.

You need to love and honor your truth.

And you need to surround yourself with people who love and honor and respect you too.

Healing this inner child that cries and bleeds within you means that you don’t put her in anyone else’s hands but your own.

Your boyfriend isn’t the person to validate you, believe you or not.

This is your task.

I want you to surround yourself in love and have those around you mirror the love that you must give yourself.

I talk about how hard it is to love ourselves fully in my latest Hay House book, Love Never Dies. I do know. I was raised by verbally and physically abusive parents. It’s very hard to find love for yourself when you aren’t raised with it.

In my case, I show how my husband, in spirit form, helped me to fully achieve self-love. As I’ve discovered, the fast track to self-love is to connect with those who love us in spirit. Amazingly, once freed from the vessel of the human body, their love for us can enter us, and become our own self-love in an instant!

If you have any dead relatives who loved you, please let Love Never Dies show you how to connect with them and allow their love to enter your soul and heal you.

Meanwhile, surround yourself in loving people who walk the earth. Join a group and heal.

When you truly love yourself, you not only won’t be looking for your boyfriend to believe you, you won’t tolerate his abuse in any form. His life wasn’t ruined at all! Your life is being ruined by what he says to you, and what you allow him to say to you.

I put my foot down!

Enough.

Work on loving yourself NOW.

Keep me posted on how you’re progressing.

 

 

Do You Quantum Think? On Ask Dr Love

This is the question that bestselling author, Dianne Collins, asks you to ask yourself.

Collins asserts that the human race is at a critical juncture in its development and it is our collective responsibility to evolve our thought process or face the consequences. Ms. Collins explains that our thinking has not evolved past an ‘Industrial Age’ paradigm rooted in a mechanical world view. Einstein’s relativity and the quantum physics of the 20th century initiated a process of dismantling this archaic model. Just as quantum physics redefined the physical world, the aim of Quantum Thinking is to reinvent perception in a way that is better suited for the shifting realities of modern times.

The message of Do You QuantumThink? is divided among “21 QuantumThink Distinctions” which blend scientific knowledge, spiritual wisdom, and current philosophy into a practical modern approach that will attune the readers to the essence of our time and the ability to think in sync with it. Some important concepts that you will draw from Do You QuantumThink? are:

The power of Intent to manifest results in Observer-created Reality

The disciplined use of Intuition as our access to the non-local field of Infinite Intelligence

Listening as a dimension of being rather than a skill

Awareness to notice and interrupt limited thinking patterns and move beyond them

How Mind generates Emotion and how to use this dynamic energy to our advantage

Tune in for a thought provoking and mind expanding show with bestselling author Dianne Collins!

On The Next Ask Dr. Love Radio, Could Expanding Your Mind Improve Your Relationships?

  Ask Dr Love Radio Show

Could Expanding Your Mind Improve Your Relationships? with Dr. Elliott Maynard

Wednesday, October 29th at 1 PM EST

Could thinking out of the box actually improve your love life? Do you cling to old, trauma-based thinking that keeps you stuck repeating old pain in life and love? Could expanding your mind be the secret to breaking the emotional chains that keep you from living a limitless life filled with success and love beyond your imagining?

The answer to my questions is a resounding YES!

If you are ready to expand beyond your limiting thoughts and beliefs, join me for a fascinating conversation with Dr. Maynard, a leading-edge consciousness scientist and conceptual designer who holds a Ph.D. in Consciousness Research.

Tune in to hear us talk about about “non-local consciousness,” a remarkable new research breakthrough that has powerful implications for your healing and much more.

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Do You Quantum Think? On the Next Ask Dr Love Radio

Wednesday, October 22nd at 1 PM EST

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Do you quantum think?

This is the question that bestselling author, Dianne Collins, asks you to ask yourself.

Collins asserts that the human race is at a critical juncture in its development and it is our collective responsibility to evolve our thought process or face the consequences. Ms. Collins explains that our thinking has not evolved past an ‘Industrial Age’ paradigm rooted in a mechanical world view. Einstein’s relativity and the quantum physics of the 20th century initiated a process of dismantling this archaic model. Just as quantum physics redefined the physical world, the aim of Quantum Thinking is to reinvent perception in a way that is better suited for the shifting realities of modern times.

 

The message of Do You Quantum Think? is divided among “21 Quantum Think Distinctions” which blend scientific knowledge, spiritual wisdom, and current philosophy into a practical modern approach that will attune the readers to the essence of our time and the ability to think in sync with it. Some important concepts that you will draw from Do You Quantum Think? are:

 The power of Intent to manifest results in Observer-created Reality

 The disciplined use of Intuition as our access to the non-local field of Infinite Intelligence

 Listening as a dimension of being rather than a skill

 Awareness to notice and interrupt limited thinking patterns and move beyond them

 How Mind generates Emotion and how to use this dynamic energy to our advantage

 Tune in for a thought provoking and mind expanding show with bestselling author Dianne Collins!

HOW TO LISTEN LIVE:

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